Friday, October 24, 2008

Too Cute To Be GAY?...What A Waste.

The Good, 'Fine' Ones are either Married or GAY?
Im Sure You've OverHeard Sheila, Renee and Khadijah Gossiping about it...
How OFTEN do WOMEN sit amongst one another and Chatter about how 'ALL of the GOOD Men are TAKEN?'
How OFTEN do you Hear WOMEN sitting amongst one another, shaking their heads from Side-to-Side, making claims that certain men are 'Too Cute or Too Fine' to be Gay? HMPH!
I wasnt aware of the 'Fact' that Gay men were suppose to be unattractive and unappealing to the female population. I USE TO take it as a compliment when women who were first meeting me, would find out that Im Gay, and say, 'What a Shame. I had my eye on You.'
Now, as I get variations of that same verbal statement, I have to ask myself, what Shame? Gay Men in America are treated by Women, as either the BEST FRIEND, or the ARCH-ENEMY, of sorts. Some women have a DIFFICULT time accepting the notion that a Successful, Educated, Attractive, Cultured and Worldly man, can happily live his life alongside the likes of another man who holds the same level of alluring qualities. Somehow, it has become a universal falsehood that Gay men are extremely effiminate, ultra-sexual beings, who are all running around in Nightclubs and Bath Houses, fucking, getting high and contracting HIV in dark alley ways. Its 'Acceptable' when a man who may fit the stereotype is identified as being Gay. However, some women seem to find a sense of discomfort swallowing the pill that comes in the shape of a Tall, Dark and Handsome specimen who is just as Masculine and secure in himself, as that of his Boyfriend, Partner, Lover or Husband.
He's Too Cute to be Gay? Apparantly, women IGNORE the fact that a large percentage of men who they watch every night on Television, every weekend in Movie Theaters, and listen to every day on Radio Stations across the country, are closeted, GAY men. The sad notion, is the fact that these men are being trained by their agents, managers and publicists to maintain their discreet lifestyles, as to continue to APPEAL to their female fan-base. I think its Incredibly SAD that the Sexual Identity of men, is used as a measuring tool in determining their Masculinity and Appeal as a Male of Standard amongst mainstream society.
Too often, Ive heard women say, 'Well, If he is Gay, it would be such a Waste.'
While there are many women who embrace their Gay brothers, friends, stylists, co-workers and associates, there are Plenty others who despise the existence of Gay men and Gay couples, overall.
Gay men are NOT competing against women for the romantic and emotional connection of other men. An attractive Gay man can NOT 'Steal' a True, HeteroSexual man from the clutches of his woman. A Handsome, Intelligent, Successful man who is attracted to other men is far from being a waiste. In fact, he broadens the spectrum of 50% potential for lifelong unions amongst the Gay community. What some women DONT understand, is the SAME way they can look at an attractive Gay man and find him appealing, a Gay man can look at a woman, and find her just as appealing. The ONLY difference, is that a Gay man isnt plotting how long it will take him to sniff the panties, in comparison to their HeteroSexual counterparts. Gay men have the ability to still find women attractive in such a way that isnt Sexual or full of Lust.
The attraction can be innocent and flirtatious, and remain just as fun and inviting as a one night stand...without the morning after regrets.
He's Too Cute to be GAY? How about...He's Too Cute NOT to be...
LP!
[Lauging Profusely]


6 comments:

Anonymous said...

You know... I got that just recently. The one thing I absolutely hate about this is that women actually think that just because you are really attractive that you can be TURNED straight. In my opinion, I think that's just disgustingly selfish. What? Having access to 95% of American men aren't enough??? You have to try and impose upon the mere 5% who are gay too???

It saddens me, because I live in a place where there are NO gay people. NONE. Other than perhaps the mere handful of gay women. I feel as though I have been abandoned and deserted.

But anyway... great post.

Anonymous said...

Females ! ! !
It's all about them ! ! !
They come from the
"he's too cute" and "so am I and it's my privilege and birthright to have him so why wouldn't he want to be with ME" perspective. Insecurity, arrogance, and ignorance is a B*T*H! What a waste!

Anonymous said...

Took the words right out of my mouth too cute?? Alot of homophobic females really make me mad they can be so hateful to us maculine men who arent fem because they assume we are like those other DL losers, gay men come in many different shapes and sizes and types we all arent trying to take they men they want us...

Unknown said...

homerun with this post X! what pisses me off is that many of the HR depts in many companies have allowed this atmosphere to envelope the workplace day in and day out. these women who think like that (and the Black ones are the most shocking and hurtful) are sick in the head.

Prince Todd said...

I totally agree with your last comment, Xem. "He's too cute NOT to be gay." Speaking for myself I attribute my flawless complexion (not bragging)to tons of over the counter beauty products! Why? So I can appeal to some gay bloke that I find attractive...
I have no desire to turn out a truly heterosexual man (what would be the point? Other than to show that I am self loathing...which I'm certainly not). My keeping myself: physically fit, smellin nice, complexion clear, and dressing nice is all about competing with other guys. And men are visual.
Basically, the majority of gay men (not all)keep themselves lookin correct because they are trying to appeal to other men. End of story. It isn't to be forbidden fruit to women.

To that end I've gotten a mixture of hatred and adoration from women. They'll tell me, "aw you're soooo cute" or it is the reverse, "Oh you can tell he's a little punk. He has softer skin than I do" and etc etc. I really pay it no nevermind. Because I keep doin me.
But, for whatever reason, a lot of them see me (speaking for myself)as sexual competition.

Sorry sistahs...If your man wanna get with me he never really wanted to get with you in the first place.

I am not your enemy. So stop treating me as such.

Unknown said...

I've been told many times that it is such a waste that I am gay and it saddens me to think that women think so less of themselves by wishing n' hoping that a man is not gay just so they can have a man...but it doesn't bother me one bit...in fact I LOVE that they feel this way because if you ain't connected one human to another then you are a waste of energy...