When Straight Dudes Say. ".........................."Im DEFINITELY filming my next Video regarding this topic since only 500- 700 of you read my Blog Daily, and 1500-2000 on average watch each Video. THANKYOU to those of you who will READ these contents, as oppose to Waiting for the Movie.
LP! [Laughing Profusely]
Lately, Ive been receiving quite a bit of MAIL from 'Straight/HeteroSexual' Dudes. I welcome and appreciate ALL of the comments, responses and opinions that are sent to me from EVERYONE across the country. HOWEVER, it truly ANNOYS me when the 'Straight' Dudes feel the NEED to ALWAYS begin their messages with the DISCLAIMER.....
'Shorty, I Dont Swing that Way, BUT....'
or
'No Homo Shit, BUT....'
always then, followed by a compliment and 'understanding' of something I posted here on this site, or something I may have said in one of my videos regarding the LGBT community, and the Struggles we face. It's sometimes even FUNNY to me how the Dudes who I write with/work with Day to Day, will say, 'Im not trynna be Gay, BUT...What kind of Cologne U Wearing?'
SERIOUSLY, WHY Do 'Straight Dudes' feel the NEED to often times, SECURE their Sexual Identity, by delivering the 'VERBAL DISCLAIMER' before offering another man a compliment?
It KILLS ME that young boys are raised in society to BELIEVE that as an Alpha Male, he is NOT allowed to feel that another man is attractive, and/or, verbally express such. WOMEN are NOT the only species who find other women knowingly attractive. DUDES KNOW when another man is physically appealing, and it does NOT border along the lines of Homosexual desires.
Accordingly, to All of My 'STRAIGHT DUDE' readers, IT IS OKAY FOR YOU TO FEEL COMPASSION FOR THE STRUGGLES OF GAY MEN, without feeling as if you are admitting or acknowledging Same-Sex feelings.
Society has taught young men, from childhood, the Rules and Regulations regarding Sexual Identity. One of those rules, Unfortunately, is that 'STRAIGHT DUDES' dont associate with 'GAY DUDES', and they definitely DON'T offer 'Those Men' compliments, accolades and/or support. I REALIZE that my 'STRAIGHT DUDE' readers and viewers aren't intentionally being Offensive. I REALIZE that they are simply acting off of their embedded teachings, values and upbringings. I simply think its RIDICULOUS that across the board, ESPECIALLY amongst my Black and Latino viewership, I receive a plethora of DISCLAIMERS at the beginning of such commentary and response.
Eh man
I just watched your video about the word Faggot. I dont swing that way but I have a cousin who do and I always had to defend him growing up. we live in Charlotte and people are simply afraid of what they do not understand, this society is full of hypocrisy. keep up the good work. im gonna show ur stuff to my cousin. one luv.
Xem, my name is Thomas and I graduated from Clark, Atlanata Univ. Im not gay or anything, but one of my best friends watches your videos all of the time, and she shared your Young Black and Gay series with me. Man, I was so impressed with your strength and confidence. You are a brave men to stand up in support of gay men everywhere. Im 25 and grew up knowing that my uncle is gay. Everyone in the family knew that he was gay because he always brought his lover with him to holiday events, and they lived together as 'roommates'. My mother told me that he was gay, but my father and the rest of the family never discussed it. They are still together now. I have so much respect for him, and you as well, even though Im not gay. Keep doing what you're doing, I know you're helpung alot of people.
See What I Mean? I receive at least three messages, per day, from 'STRAIGHT DUDES' who use these 'DISCLAIMERS'.
...and, IF you search YouTube, under the heading, NO HOMO, you will find an array of videos of Young, Black 'STRAIGHT DUDES' exuding 'Homo Erotic' behaviors, and attempting to 'PROTECT THEMSELVES' with the entire, 'NO HOMO' headings.
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I Have So MUCH to Say In My Next Video!
Im actually going to Film it HERE in BALTIMORE
Before Departing for LA, Sunday
ENJOY THE WEEKEND
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4 comments:
I love the way you present your information on your blog. You're really the only gay dude that seriously talks about and addresses the current issues in gay society and what tribulations we must face in a serious and straight forward tone.
Me... I just love to express my perspective of only the aspects of life that I encounter on a day to day basis. Fortunately and unfortunately, I don't encounter homophobia nor do I encounter many homosexuals like myself. I don't hang with straight dudes. At all. I stay away from them and only interact when there is a NEED. I guess u could call it male heterophobia in my case.
As a teacher I observe these "disclaimers" on a daily basis from the high school male students. However after speaking with my students and sharng a lil wisdom some of them have limited their use of verbal disclamers and are beginning to be secure in themselves.
the disclaimer thing is so ignorant because NOT only are they thinking that they need let you know that they ain't gay, they are ignorant enough to believe that EVERY gay man wants them
I contend with thegayte-keeper. Ive thought about this so long Xem. I'm glad you posted about it seriously. "Str8 Dudes" always killing me as they establish this no homo status as if that is a free pass for something. It only adds to the ignorance of not understanding or wanting to understand gay dudes. They live up to what society proclaims them as "Alpha Male" and then have the audacity to use the disclaimer no homo to reaffirm the machoism that supports their senseless ignorance.
Some straight dudes can not live without being the Alpha Male because homosexuals (however friendly they are) are seen as a threat to heterosexual men which is false to say the least.
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